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Women’s History Month Recognition: Celebrating Strength, Courage and Positive Self-Esteem

On Thursday, March 12, 2015, the NSPN Communications Team (Elizabeth Smith Miller and Hillary Ladig) hosted RHYTTAC’s weekly-scheduled Talk it Out Thursday call. This week’s topic was, “Women’s History Month Recognition: Celebrating Strength, Courage and Positive Self-Esteem.” Many girls (and boys, for that matter) will enter your program having survived events that can tear anyone’s esteem down. It’s important to recognize low self-esteem and identify what factors that may be causing it. There are many types of issues and many reasons that cause them. There are also many ways to help boost esteem, build courage, and encourage strength.

We have compiled a list of resources related to this topic that we hope you find to be helpful.

Learning About and Teaching Women’s History

TeachingHistory.org’s Women’s History Resources: This is a one-stop shop for diving deep into Women’s History Month. Here, educators will find learning resources, lesson plans, and a long list of quizzes and printables for the classroom. http://teachinghistory.org/spotlight/womens-history

EDSITEment Women’s History Resources: Produced by the National Endowment for the Humanities, these resources include featured lesson plans and teaching resources that cover women in politics, the arts, and military and civilian service. The comprehensive plans highlight time required and subjects covered, and they include worksheets and links to required reading and resources. http://edsitement.neh.gov/feature/womens-history-month

Women’s History Resources for Teachers: These resources from the Library of Congress encourage teachers and students “to put primary resources to work in the classroom.” Featuring packaged lesson plans, this is a great resource. There are also wonderful audio and video resources, thorough primary source collections, and a number of timeless photo projects.http://womenshistorymonth.gov/teachers.html

Women’s History Month: You may also want to check out the Library’s official Women’s History Month page at: http://womenshistorymonth.gov/.

Science NetLinks Women’s History Collection: This Science NetLinks collection complements this year’s WHM theme well, which looks at women in STEM fields. This page features science lesson plans and teaching resources for all students of all ages. Teachers can filter results by grade level, and there is also a great list of science-specific outside links to lesson plans. http://sciencenetlinks.com/collections/womens-history-month/

ReadWriteThink’s Women’s History: Here, educators will find thoughtful lesson plans, a list of links to online women’s history resources, as well as after-school ideas for teaching women’s history for parents. There are teacher-written lesson plans available for grades 3-12. http://www.readwritethink.org/classroom-resources/calendar-activities/march-national-women-history-20452.html

Zinn Education Project’s Women’s History Resources: These lesson plans incorporate Howard Zinn’s “A People’s History of the United States,” and they encourage classrooms to delve into American history by looking at our collective past through the eyes of everyday people. Instead of just highlighting iconic historical figures, these lessons look at history through the eyes of common women. (Note: access requires free registration.) http://zinnedproject.org/teaching-materials/%20-%20themes-womens-history

Reading Lists and Additional Collections for Students about Women’s History

There are so many great women’s history reads and resources online, and it’s hard to select just a few for youth. But, hopefully, these reading lists and additional resource collections will help spark curiosity in your programs.

A Collection of Teaching Resources for WHM, Scholastic Teachers: http://www.scholastic.com/teachers/collection/womens-history-month-collection-teaching-resources

The Origins of Women’s History Month, HISTORY: http://www.history.com/topics/holidays/womens-history-month

The Best History Websites for WHM, EdTechTeacher: http://www.besthistorysites.net/index.php/american-history/women

WHM Videos, Articles, and Multimedia, Biography.com: http://www.biography.com/search/Women’s%20History

Women’s History Month Reading Resources, TIME for Kids: http://www.timeforkids.com/minisite/womens-history-month

Women’s History Month Reading List, Reading Rockets: http://www.timeforkids.com/minisite/womens-history-month

Celebrate Women’s History, The New York Times’ The Learning Network: http://learning.blogs.nytimes.com/teaching-topics/celebrate-womens-history-month/?_r=0

Women’s History and Children’s Books, Carol Hurst’s Children’s Literature Site: http://www.carolhurst.com/subjects/history/women.html

http://www.scholastic.com/teachers/collection/womens-history-month-collection-teaching-resources

http://womenshistorymonth.gov/teachers.html

Want to Learn More About Self-Esteem?

What is Self-Esteem? http://psychology.about.com/od/sindex/f/what-is-self-esteem.htm

Low Self-Esteem: This article shares information on the curvilinear model of self-esteem, empirical research, and low self-esteem in children and teens. http://www.simplypsychology.org/self-esteem.html

Low Self-esteem Signs and Symptoms: http://www.self-help-and-self-development.com/low-self-esteem-signs.html

5 Possible Causes of Low Self-esteem: http://www.self-help-and-self-development.com/causes-of-low-self-esteem.html

10 Sources of Low Self-esteem: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/me-we/201312/10-sources-low-self-esteem

The Story of Self Esteem: This article provides helpful ways to explain what self-esteem is to younger children. http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/emotion/self_esteem.html

Teenage Girls’ Self Esteem – Your Inner Sparkle: BeingGirl.com is a helpful site dedicated to teenage girls.  Girls can visit this site to obtain information on confidence, Self esteem, Sex & Intimacy, Stress, Depression, Anxiety, Substance Abuse, Eating Disorders, Cyber Safety, and social life/work/school. http://www.beinggirl.com/article/teenage-girls-self-esteem/

TeenBreaks.com is a neat site that offers information to teens about self-esteem and other topics. http://www.teenbreaks.com/confidence/selfesteem.cfm

Want to Learn More About How to Boost Self-Esteem?

Girls with Low Self-esteem: How to Raise Girls with Healthy Self-Esteem: This article shares information such as “when and why” self-esteem drops, the sexualization of girls and mental health problems, and more. http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Mirror_Mirror_Wall/

Help Children Develop a Positive Self-esteem: http://childdevelopmentinfo.com/child-psychology/self-esteem/

Helping Teens Develop a Healthy Body Image: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/raising-fit-kids/mood/healthy-body-image

Livestrong.com offers a site with self-esteem resources including “activities to promote self-esteem in girls”. http://www.livestrong.com/article/131858-activities-promote-self-esteem-girls/

Youth Communication Program (click “For Agencies” & “For Teens” tabs): http://youthcomm.org/who_we_are/publish.html

Self-Esteem Boosting Worksheets

Therapistaid.com offers many great tools for boosting self-esteem. http://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheets/selfesteem/adolescents

http://activitiesforchildrenandteens.blogspot.com/2012/02/self-esteem-boosting-worksheets.html

View-Worthy Videos

Always #LikeAGirl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs

A Dove Film: A girl’s self esteem: https://youtu.be/4ytjTNX9cg0

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What do New Year’s Resolutions mean to you?

What is a resolution?  I asked this very question to a couple people and received the same initial response from all.  I received a “look”, a look that implied “I know the answer to this but I have to think about how to verbalize it.”  They had to think about what a New Year’s Resolution really was.  After thinking for a moment, they shared replies such as “it’s something new someone wants to do for themselves”, “a new beginning”, and “putting something into motion”. What if I told you a resolution is as simple as a promise.  A resolution is a promise that you make to yourself (and work hard at keeping)!

Year after year, resolutions are made; yet, you find many are broken.  Why is it so difficult for people to follow through with their resolutions?  Perhaps the reason that they are so easily broken is because they are not thought to be actual promises, but instead ideas.  People like the idea of something, but it is expected that not all ideas come to fruition.

How can you do better?  Start by simply thinking of your resolution as a promise.  It will help motivate you to be more thoughtful about the resolution and you will be more motivated to keep it.  When you feel down, remember that you can do it!  You wouldn’t have made the promise if it weren’t realistic or if you didn’t believe in yourself to do it.  You have made progress and it’s not time to give up.  Next year, one of two things will happen.  You will be proud that you kept your promise and accomplished your goal –OR- you will wish you stuck to it and will be starting all over again.  Which will you choose?   Make this year the last year that you make this same promise to yourself.  Whatever you choose, make sure it is the right choice for you.  Believe in yourself and don’t give up.  You are worth it!  A promise is a promise!  Happy New Year!

Feel free to check out the tips below to get moving in the right direction. 

Tips on Making and Keeping Your New Year’s Promise

  • Put some thought into it! What do you really want to change?  Is it a personal goal or does it have to do with family, friends, or the outside world including work or school?
  • Make sure it is attainable. You want to do something that is good for you, which is why you are promising yourself in the first place.  You don’t want to set yourself up for failure before you even start.
  • Don’t leave it open ended. If you want to lose weight, set an amount (“I promise to lose 20 pounds this year and keep it off.”)  If you want further your education, decide what you want to learn and be specific (“I promise to take a pottery class this year.”)  One is less likely to give up or “phone it in” when setting clear specific goals.
  • Plan ahead! Do you know how much you want to save?  Have a schedule?  Ideas on types of storage or labels you need to get organized? Do you need to have healthy food options on hand?  A pair of walking shoes?  Need to get rid of things from your home or work environment? Want to be better at your job?  Joining NSPN can help with this!
    • Write it down. There may be times where you don’t remember what you should or shouldn’t do.  Writing it down makes it more formal and it helps when your “bad habit brain” wants to take over!
    • Have a contingency plan. Identify what you will do if temptation kicks in! Anyone, at anytime, can suffer from a pesky craving or forget and fall back into bad habits.
      • Does your promise depend on the weather? What happens if it rains?  Make a plan and take away the room for the excuse ahead of time.
      • Craving ice cream or an after dinner sweet snack? Try cool whip mixed with flavored Greek yogurt.  YUM!!
      • Running late? Don’t hit that snooze button!  Set your alarm for when you actually need to wake up and place it on the other side of the room.  Don’t waste an hour of interrupted sleep just to keep hitting the button.
  • Let others know! The last thing you want is external influences pushing you to break your promise.  Let people know around you that you have made a promise to yourself and appreciate their support.   You increase your chances of success when sharing details of your journey as you tend to receive extra external motivation and encouragement!
  • Have a friend ready to support you. There will most likely be a time when you need the extra support or someone to get your mind off things.
  • Write down some positive self talk statements. Who knows the best part of you more than yourself!  It’s ok to tell yourself how awesome you are and that you are WORTH doing this for yourself!
  • Be persistent! It takes at least 21 days to start a new habit. Don’t expect that things will change overnight.  It took some work to create the bad habit, generating a poor credit score, or gaining the extra pounds, so it will take some work and time to turn things around.  Take things day by day.  Don’t look at it as a lifetime commitment or a yearlong commitment.  Wake up in the morning and say TODAY I am (or am not) going to do this for this day.  Recommit yourself each day.
  • Track your progress. Regardless of the size of the step, every step forward is a plus!  Give yourself credit when credit is due.  A little happy dance never hurt anyone; go ahead, stop what you are doing and smile about what you have just accomplished.
  • Reward yourself along the way! Yep, that’s right… you deserve a pat on the back!  Make your rewards meaningful. Some reward examples include downloading a song or album of choice, having a spa day (You can find great deals online for local massages!), or something like going bowling.  Depending on what your promise is, you might have a short-range, mid-range, and of course the ultimate goal!  The rewards can mimic the outcomes (the more you do, the more you reward)!
    • Here’s some more great reward examples:
      • Complete a Brain Break from NSPN’s Plugged iN Email!
      • Take a hot bath. Go ahead and splurge on that calming lavender oil (or other pleasing scent of choice).
      • Give yourself a Mani and Pedi! (Or if it’s a mid-to-ultimate goal splurge for the professional one!)
      • Get a massage or a facial.
      • Visit a farmers market and get some goodies.
      • Buys some fresh flowers and set out on your counter. Seeing them every day for a week will be a great reminder of how hard you worked.
      • Have a play date! Yep, whether with a friend or significant other, take time for a movie or other fun outing.
      • Turn on some music and dance around like no one is watching.
      • Enjoy a fun attraction like the zoo or city Ferris wheel (even the largest sky scraper in town and check out the skyline if you’re in a large city).
      • Do a crossword puzzle, word search, or play a card game.
      • Allow yourself a few hours to read a book.
      • Check out a play at a local theater.
      • Host a game night with friends.
      • Have coffee or tea with a friend.
      • Take a road trip! Weekend trips to a new destination a short distance away are great!
      • Take some photos and make a collage.
      • Give someone special a gift (like flowers, a meal, or something else special)
      • Reach for the stars! … Or just look at them. Star gazing can be breathtaking. Perhaps your city has a local planetarium.
      • Go to a local craft show or home show that’s in town.
      • Take a nap. Sleep is a good thing.
      • Go through your DVDs at home, pop some popcorn and watch a throwback movie you enjoyed and haven’t seen in a while.

Helping Youth Make a Promise?  Here are Some Tips to Help Them Get Started!

  • Help Youth categorize their resolution promises.
    • Examples: school/work, finances, recreation, social life, health
  • Make sure the goals are attainable.
  • If they are unsure about what to change or do to enhance their life, ask them questions to get them thinking. Where do they want to be in a few years?  Are they looking to save money for a car or rental, go to college?  What steps do they need to take to get there?  Are there areas they can focus on to help?
  • Share your success stories with them. You can share with them the amount of work it takes to make it happen, and that it is possible!  You might be able to offer ideas to make it easier.

 

Sample New Year’s Promises:

  • Stop a Bad Habit
    • Smoking, Biting Nails, Drinking, Fibbing, etc.
  • Lose Weight / Have a Healthier Lifestyle
    • Eat Healthier, Become a Vegetarian, Walk/Exercise More, Drink More Water, etc.
  • Learn a New Skill
    • Grant Writing, Cooking, Blog Writing, Sewing, Typing, Knitting, Speaking a New Language, etc.
  • Try Something New
    • Yoga, Zip Lining, Sky Diving, Hiking, etc.
  • Start a Hobby
    • Painting, Dancing, Collecting Coins, etc.
  • Travel / Visit a New Place / Be Spontaneous!
    • Travel to Another City, State or Country; Visit Your Local Museum(s) in Your Own Town, etc.
  • Spend More Time with Loved Ones (Including your pets!)
    • Plan a Family Game Night Once a Month, Take Your Dog to the Dog Park Once or More Times a Month, etc.
  • Get Organized
  • Save Money / Manage Debt
    • Create and Use a Budget, Use Coupons, Build/Rebuild Credit, etc.
  • Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle
  • Be Kind! (Offer at Least One Random Act of Kindness Each Day.)

Tips for Dealing with Holiday Stress

The holidays can be a stressful time for people of all ages, at home and at work. Families are juggling additional obligations, travel plans, and financial commitments. This stress can be compounded by the fact that many agencies face end-of-year deadlines and financial requirements and youth service workers are helping young people also facing stress and possibly dealing with loss and grief. December’s tip sheet (available to National Safe Place Network members) highlights the ways you can support your employees and colleagues during this time of year, and how you can support the youth you serve.

Express gratitude. Simply saying “thank you” to staff and colleagues and offering words of encouragement can go a long way to increase morale during the holidays. It may also help to highlight achievements of colleagues and staff during the previous year since some may be facing anxiety about finances and person accomplishments heading into the new year.

NSPN members can read the full tip sheet by logging in at www.nspnetwork.org and accessing the NSPN Resource Center. To learn more about becoming a Network member and available services, visit the website listed above or contact Katie Carter at kcarter@nspnetwork.org or 502.635.3660.